Author Guest Post
Save The Drama For Your Mama
I was trying to think of a topic that in some way ties into the plot of Vegas to Varanasi, so when revisiting my blurb, I decided to focus on the word drama. In this post, I’m referring to the word’s negative connotation. I’ve often wondered why it seems we have become a society that’s obsessed with drama. Or maybe we have always been that way, and I just never noticed.
I think drama is okay when we seek it in our entertainment. After all, a TV show, movie, or book won’t keep us engaged if there’s not some sort of conflict taking place. In fact, recently my husband and I started watching the Showtime series Shameless, and I’ve found myself addicted to this family that is so dysfunctional, they make Al and Peg Bundy seem more like Cliff and Claire Huxtable. We’ve been watching several episodes in a row, trying to catch up, when finally I had to take a break. These characters were invading my sleep!
But when we start believing we must have drama in real life, that’s what I don’t get. This is where reality TV comes in. I’ve never been a fan, and I think the reason is that most of the time, these shows equate reality with being petty, hateful bitches. (Pardon my French.) Now, those of you who have watched Shameless are probably thinking, “What a hypocrite! That family is filled with people who lie, cheat, and steal, with a father who is a good-for-nothing, welfare-grubbing, raging alcoholic.”
To which I would bow my head and reply, “You’re right.” However… I would also argue that this is a family in survival mode. Despite the fact that these kids were cursed with a worthless parent, they are there for each other. They have each other’s backs, and they do what they need to do to get through each day - together. There’s a difference between that and being nasty for the sake of being nasty.
I’m sure I’m just as guilty when it comes to laughing at some of this stuff; I’m far from perfect and I’ll be the first to admit I can have a twisted sense of humor. But somewhere along the way, it seems that being insensitive has become entertainment. Whether it’s something as basic as a movie seeking laughs by berating others, or web sites teens frequent which allow them to disparage each other anonymously, things have gotten out of hand.
I lead with all of this because my daughter will soon be moving to the school where I teach—that is, if she doesn’t change her mind—because she’s had it with the drama at her current school. I’ve tried to explain to her that there will be drama in any school, but it’s who she chooses to hang with that will determine how much or how little she’s going to deal with. My daughter currently has what I call a “bad romance” with her best friend. A love/hate thing, if you will, that she can’t seem to rid herself of, and it’s exhausting the hell out of me! In fact, it seems her whole circle of friends, boys included, thrives on conflict.
Don’t get me wrong. I know my daughter is no innocent, and I’m sure she is equally to blame in some of these conflicts, but I find it sad that so many kids seem to think that this is a normal, acceptable way to live. Life is too short to be constantly contriving some sort of drama. But then when I go back and look at what they’re exposed to in our media, I think, “Well, there ya have it.”
So I continually have this discussion with my daughter, reminding her that she needs to decide what kind of people she wants in her life; that even adults go through this process sometimes. When we align ourselves with negative people, it’s so easy to start believing that this is the norm, and maybe we even start adopting behaviors we never had. It can sneak up on us. I think we’ve all been in that place where we recognize that a person we’ve been associating with is sucking the very life from our soul by their constant negativity, snide remarks, or whatever, and we have to make a choice. I can only hope that my daughter learns how to make good choices in this regard, and I hope that her friends can, too.
About The Author
Vegas To Varanasi by Shelly Hickman
Publisher: Independent Self Publishing
Publication Date: November 18, 2013
Format: Paperback - 235 pages / Kindle - 1770 KB / Nook - 788 KB
Genre: Contemporary Romance
BUY THE BOOK: Vegas To Varanasi
Disclaimer: I received a copy of the book from the author in exchange for my honest review and participation in a virtual book tour event hosted by Chick Lit Plus Blog Tours.
Formerly overweight and unpopular, Kiran has never forgotten Anna, the one person who was kind to him when no one else could be bothered, and Anna’s a bit flustered as she slowly comes to grips with his intense attraction for her.
In what feels like a romantic dream come true, all-grown-up, hunky Kiran invites Anna on a trip to Varanasi. But her troubled, whack-a-do ex-boyfriend starts interfering, creating drama at every turn, which begs the question, “Can nice girls really finish first?”
Vegas To Varanasi is a wonderful romance story that takes a realistic look into the dynamics of relationships and the trials and tribulations that come with life experiences and change. Author Shelly Hickman weaves a deeply moving tale told in the first person narrative that follows the journey of Anna, a Las Vegas physical therapist, as she ventures down the path of romance, and how she handles the complexities and changes that come with them.
This is so much more than the usual romance story, the reader is easily drawn into Anna's life and the complexities of her relationships, it is a captivating and realistic tale that has a great mixture of emotions, humor and romance. Anna takes the reader along on her life's journey as she experiences the ups and downs, joys and struggles, insecurities and passion that comes along with romance and family. From her insecurities and vulnerability; to the heartbreak and acceptance of her marriage/divorce to a gay man and the remolding of their family; to the struggles of loving and living with a man with an alcohol addiction; to the refreshing discovery of a new love and culture, Anna's journey easily captivates the reader's attention and has them cheering Anna on as she ventures down the path to love and happiness.
With an engaging cast of characters who are realistic and have flaws; richly detailed descriptions of Las Vegas and Varanasi and the Indian culture; and a storyline that depicts the reality of life and the complexities of relationships; Vegas To Varanasi is a delightful story about the intricacies of life experiences, it is a story full of depth and emotion that will leave a smile on your face.
RATING: 4 STARS ****
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